Posts Tagged ‘Work’

It’s Not OK to Speak

Friday, June 3rd, 2011

I have just become aware of how fear shuts down our ability to listen and hear someone’s else’s thought.

In the past (and maybe still today) I interrupted people because an idea would pop into my head and I wanted to share it.  That was my ego wanting to be seen and prove how smart I was so  I could gain your recognition and approval.  Basically I wanted your love.

Yesterday I had the opportunity of having someone interrupt me from sharing a thought because they were concerned about what I was going to say.  It sounded like “this is not the appropriate time.”  How would they know if it was the appropriate time or not, unless they knew exactly what I was going to say?  We never know what someone is going to say, because we are not them and we can’t know their thoughts.  We need to be vulnerable in the face of our fear and have the courage and patience to listen.

Being told not to speak created an emotional reaction in me such that I no longer wanted to be part of the conversation or share my ideas.  On the way home I realized an Emotional Hot Button had been pushed.  My father would interrupt my mother on a regular basis and tell her that she didn’t know what she was talking about. I have emotional baggage around this.  It doesn’t feel safe to express myself.  Synchronistically,  I was working with a client yesterday who was holding old emotional energy in her mouth and throat.  She said “I feel like I want to scream.”  She felt like there were people both at home and at work who did’t want  to hear what she had to say.  Her ability to self-express had been shut down.

We can have a profound impact when our fears or ego shut down another person’s communication. We are telling them it is not OK to speak. Now I know why I’ve observed so many people sitting in class rooms or around the boardroom table who never wanted to speak.  They had been conditioned to believe it wasn’t safe, and no one wanted to hear them anyway.

Cafe Owner Shares Business Success Tips

Friday, October 22nd, 2010

Melanie from Zoots Cafe on Dundas Street in Toronto shares her key success tips for anyone in the cafe, restaurant or service industry.  The cafe has a warm and inviting atmosphere with up beat music playing and the pastries are wonderful.

Zoots Cafe

Zoots Cafe

Melanie shares her tips from Zoots Cafe

Melanie’s business success tips are as follows:

  • Create an elegant environment where customers feel comfortable
  • Personally greet your customers within one minute of entering your location
  • Be a “war bride” count your pennies in the back of the house by reducing wastage as much as possible.

Having provided bank financing for ten years in my previous career it is evident to me that Melanie’s tips are great for anyone in business.  May they be a quick reminder for you to ask:

  • How does it feel to enter the door of my business?
  • What is my level of energy when I greet clients?
  • How can I support my staff to be better?
  • How well am I controlling costs?
  • What expense can I reduce or eliminate?

Confessions of a Non-Marketer

Wednesday, May 26th, 2010

One area of my business that still  isn’t easy for me is sales.  Although, my business has managed to survive through the past few years.  Taking full ownership of my less than illustrious sales record, I haven’t relied completely on my business to  sustain me, but I would dearly love it to. 

 The irony is, 80% of my clients are small business owners themselves and I help them over the hurdles of starting their businesses, which of course, includes sales and marketing.  They are assigned to me, so I don’t have to sell my services to them. The blind leading the blind you might comment. 

On the contrary, knowing my weakness, I invest heavily (time as much money) in professional development activities to compensate. The point is, I know enough about what to do, my challenge is actually applying it to my own business.  

 Frankly, it’s much easier to coach others and help strategize marketing plans to fit their businesses.  Providing a sounding board, and asking the right questions, really helps to test assumptions and clarify directions for promoting a business. Plus, I get to share gems from the Sales and Marketing Experts I’ve learned from. Gradually the message is getting engrained in my psyche and I’m starting to put into practice what I’ve preached.

 One of the most effective approaches I’ve come across lately is Charlene Brisson’s 3 Step Marketing (for non-marketers).  Charlene’s marketing expertise spans executive level marketing positions for major media and telecommunications corporations, operating her own small businesses and teaching sales and marketing. She has been through the trenches and has helped hundreds of businesses succeed. 

 In a recent interview with Ann Pustil, of ‘In A Nutshell Coaching’ Charlene talked about MSS: Marketing Stress Syndrome It was a really entertaining conversation and they had me giggling about how much we struggle with this stuff.  MSS occurs from

  • overwhelming confusion – wondering where to start, what to do, frustration, spinning your wheels.
  • Paralyzing fear of spending in the wrong place
  • Marketing Insanity: repeating the same things and expecting different results
  • Breaking into a Cold Sweat with the idea of cold calling
  • Wallet Fatigue: spending and not getting results
  • Procrastination and head-spinning indecision

 Charlene’s message is to keep it simple, with three steps to overcome the madness.

1. Know your ideal customer. Pinpoint all of the factors: geographic, demographic, psychographic, so precisely that you could give your ideal customer a name and write a story about who they are and what they do.  This gives you a foundation on which to develop your strategies. Use surveys and research to support your assumptions.

2. Craft a message that speaks to your ideal customer.  What you now know from step one helps you to know what to say. Let them know why they should do business with you; and what they can expect from your services.  State your Value Proposition or Unique Selling Position – What you do that is bigger, better, faster, than everyone else. State your clients’ situation and guide them through the resolution process in real time.

In addition to other brilliant examples on the call, they shared Anne’s marketing message for her business. “In a Nutshell Coaching: Gets to the heart of the matter quickly and resolves it quickly.’

3. Select effective marketing tactics to reach your ideal customer.  Strategically and optimally target your tactics to get the response you want. Tactics won’t work if they are not aligned with methods used by your ideal clients.  Always ask yourself if your ideal client uses the media you are planning for.

Granted there are so many traditional and new media marketing tactics: to choose from it can still be daunting. Charlene has solutions for you in her new book “148 Ways to Advertise & Promote your Business”. 

Have fun working easier with your marketing!

Effectively Investing Money to Motivate People

Tuesday, May 25th, 2010

As the economy gains momentum, what is the most effective area for companies to increase spending on employees?

Companies often default to spending money on financial incentives, partially because they believe money is what counts to employees. In the McKinsey Quarterly article “Motivating People, Getting Beyond Money”  (http://bit.ly/93Dj87) their survey indicates that companies should seriously consider non-financial incentives. The three keys areas the survey recommends to focus on are:

  • praise and commendation from their manager
  • attention from leaders, such as one-on-one coaching
  • opportunities to lead projects or task forces

In the survey all three of these areas were considered to be more effective in motivating people than any of the financial compensation options.  Plus the non-financial options do not increase the long term cost of employee benefits allowing companies to remain more flexible should the economy sputter it’s way to a recovery.

What gets in the way of companies implementing the non-financial options to engage and inspire employees?  My observation is that there are three

reasons why companies don’t invest more heavily in the non-financial options:

  • It is difficult to tangibly measure the immediate impact and long term value of having higher quality connections with employees.
  • Management has so many other immediate short term tasks on their to do list that undertaking a longer term strategic program of increasing contact with their people gets pushed to the side.
  • No one ever really taught us how to communicate and as managers we don’t know how or don’t feel comfortable giving recognition or having one-on-one conversations with our direct reports.
Impacts of Coaching

Impacts of Coaching

An earlier post (http://bit.ly/baLMhE ) indicated that  the average return on coaching is 6 times the investment.  This is usually a short term return and does not take into account the long term learning benefit that the person being coached gets to repeat year after year.  Nor does it take into account the long term learning benefits that a manager may generate with their direct reports.

I believe learning how to communicate and coaching the people that report to you will give your company the best return in the long run.  Unfortunately it  is not the easiest or fastest answer.  It requires a commitment on the part of management to learn a new skill, practice and take the time to connect with their people.

With an investment in non-financial initiatives now companies could exit the down turn stronger than they entered it.

Jacque

Feeling Connected to Others

Monday, April 19th, 2010
 White Rock Beach

White Rock Beach

Last  Friday I was musing about a post that I read on face book about back stabbing.  It occurred to me that one of the reasons we don’t stop ourselves from back stabbing or even talking about others is that we feel like we are separate from others. Like I am me and they are them and we are not one and the same.  Yet I know this is not true, we are all connected.

I have been know to come up with spontaneous ideas in the past that I take action on, which cause me to stretch and grow.  Like setting a goal of hugging a 1001 people and then doing it. You can read about it here,  http://ow.ly/1zvvW Well Friday morning called for just such an idea.  I had just finished drafting the introduction and chapter 1 of my book, two emotionally traumatic pieces of writing for me that have pushed my emotional hot buttons.  I had been working through the emotions all week and was feeling a little alone.  A new idea came to me, what about if I said “Good Morning” to as many people as possible on my run today.

I started to run keeping my head up, rather than looking at the ground, and I focused my attention on the next person, or couple, that was approaching me and in a clear voice I said “good morning”.  Now the benefit for me of doing this is that it was like a meditation, I had a pretty quiet mind throughout the whole process.  I am not a very accomplished runner and my mind could only handle 3 things at once — putting my focus on the up coming person, keeping count and breathing.   I have found breathing to be a necessary part of running!

About a third of the way through the run I had accumulated 20 “good mornings”, so I set a goal of 60.  That would be at least 60 people that I connected with, even for just a fraction of a second. How would people respond?  Some people’s face lit up when they made eye contact with me and heard the warm “good morning”.  Some people broke their conversation for a moment, responded, and then went right back to where they were.  Others interrupted their cell phone call to respond.  And a very few kept looking at the ground and did not respond at all.

How rude you say?  No, the story that I wrote in my mind, it was for these people that I reached out to make contact.  For what ever reason they are not comfortable with contact and they keep themselves separate.  I think it is this sense of separateness that helps to keep us from feeling loved, that causes us to have negative thoughts about others and to speak about others in a negative way.  I think this is where back stabbing really comes from.  It comes from a place of insecurity and lacking love.

By reaching out with our eyes, our hearts and kind words we can touch people even if it is just for a moment.  We can have empathy.

And in the process we might meet a new friend who also likes to touch people.  There were no more people on the boardwalk at the end of my run.  I had 98 “good mornings”. My ego wanted a 100.  So I walked back and called over to Ruth who was walking on the grass, “excuse me I just wanted to say good morning.”  She asked what was I up to and I told her.  I still needed one more person to make my stretch goal.  She said, I have been watching  that person down on the log , he looks like someone who needs a “good morning”.  So I walked down to the beach and said “good morning” and wished him a good day.

Happiness and joy filled my heart as I walked to the parking lot to get into my car.

Who can you connect with and touch today?  Who can you have empathy for when they speak negatively about someone?  And maybe by not repeating the story and giving it energy, it will quietly disappear.

Jacque