Friends Provide Help
Due to the challenging economy a friend of mine has found herself in a very challenging financial situation. Difficult situations often trigger emotional reactions stemming from the emotional conditioning of our childhoods. These emotional reactions usually present themselves in the form of stress. The symptoms of stress may be a loss of sleep, worry or anxiety. Often we cope with stress by trying to brave it out until one day we notice that it becomes difficult to get out of bed or our heart is pounding and we feel weak all over. We become caught in the vicious cycle of depression or panic attacks, as is the case for my friend. These can become so severe that the only way to cope is to go to our doctor and have them prescribe drugs to alleviate the symptoms.
However there is another solution, we can choose to resolve the emotional conditioning from our childhood that has us locked in the grip of fear. Often we believe we can handle things on our own and hence we don’t seek help until it is too late. I know that I have faced many situations on my own rather than seeking help. It wasn’t until I went through my divorce that I learned how to ask for help.
Because my friend does not feel like she can afford my services I have offered to remove her Emotional Hot Buttons for free. I received this communication from her this morning as a response to my e-mail asking her when she would like more coaching. “I have been reluctant to bug you, but I am having a tough time despite the medication that I have received from my doctor. No panic attacks, just feeling sad about putting our house up for sale.”
My response to her was this:
You are welcome to my coaching services. If I can’t help my friends who are in need then what is the point of life. I am learning a new way of being from a man who is amazingly generous. He tells me that for what ever he gives, God will give him 3X over. If he is right, what ever I give you, God will give me 3X times over. And if not at least I will feel the love in my heart from giving.
A house and all the stuff in it is just stuff, it does not define our life unless we let it. It is just a perception that the stuff we have is important. Unfortunately our attachment to it can create great suffering. We can choose to let go of our attachments and be open to what ever lessons the universe has for us. I let go of almost all the possessions I had when my marriage came to an end. It felt awful, but I have learned that it was all just stuff. I let it go and it gave me the freedom to move on and live the life of my dreams. Many people are envious that I am able to live in Belize while I write my book. I wouldn’t have done this if I still had all the stuff.
One of my Belizean friends lives in a ply-board house with a tin roof and only cold running water. This man wakes up happy every day no matter what his problems and is a very generous person. He has taught me that people who are poor stick together and help each other out. Generosity and love are way more valuable than the material things I thought were so important.
So my friend, please access my services and thank God that I followed my intuition and kept learning new techniques to help heal myself so that now I can share this with others. Some day you will get back on your feet, maybe I will need help and then you can help me or maybe someone else will need help and you can help them. Help is always available when we are open to receiving it. The quality of life that we have is not dependent on the stuff that we have it is dependent on the love we have in our hearts.
What I observe about the poor people in Belize is that there is camaraderie among family and friends. They have your back.
So my friend it is my pleasure to have your back.
