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A “Wholehearted” Life is Magical

Thursday, August 25th, 2011
I would like to introduce you to Brene Brown , she did a 10 year sociology study of shame and discovered a group of people who live life from a really “wholehearted place.”  We started our journey at about the same time and have come to the same conclusions. Brene studied other people and I went through the process one step at a time.
I spent the last 10 years finding happiness.  Actually it took me 7 years to find happiness and over the last 3 years I dug myself out of the emotional disaster of divorce and discovered what a Magical Life feels like. I now fully live in the “wholehearted place” that Brene talks about in her book.
My solution for getting to this place is a little different than Brene’s, in fact it is more of an add on.  It is more than being able to look at the world from a different perspective, have different thoughts and take different actions.  To get to the magical place with a sense of ease we need to drop off our emotional baggage — especially fear, disappointment, anger and not feeling good enough.  When we do this we can move into the place of vulnerability exponentially fast and start creating new possibilities, be that at work or in our relationships or maybe both!
Needing control, shuts down vulnerability, which stops us from in living into our ideal magical life.  Give Brene’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection, a read.  Get the idea of what is possible.
If you want to achieve a Miracle Life fast I can show you the shortest and quickest path, the rest is up to you. If you are ready to start this journey,  I would love to have you come and play with me in Belize, where I am living my Magical Life.  Here are links to my two of my offerings:
A Divine Adventure in Belize —  http://bit.ly/pdueuj
Divine Conversations for Couples in Belize   http://bit.ly/pTH7oG
My new motto is “Divorcing your partner is optional, divorcing your emotional baggage is not.”

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Can we find Happiness?

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

I read an article in Psychology Today http://ow.ly/1737dU that suggested that happiness can not be found.  In fact that if we try to find happiness that it will guarantee that we won`t be able to find it.

“Maybe it’s just me, but happiness in the sense of fulfillment—not momentary, hedonic pleasure—is not something that can be consciously and deliberately sought, because the very process of seeking it will ensure that you will not find it.”, according to Mark D. White, author of the article. As much as I appreciate Mark`s perspective, I think we cause our own happiness. We cause it by who we are being and by what we choose to do.

One day eight years ago, when I was driving into Vancouver, BC on a spring morning and looking at the beautiful snow capped mountains, I thought  ’oh how beautiful, I am happy.”  There was the problem, I thought about happiness, I did not feel it and happiness is a feeling.

A spectacular sight

A spectacular sight

I went on a quest to find happiness, because I had lost all sense of it.  Happiness had become a thought in my head and I recognized it was no longer a feeling in my body.  I had lost it.

I won’t take you through a blow by blow account of how I did it.:-)  I will give you the generalities.  I changed the way I was thinking and I changed the way I was responding to people.  Plus I started to drop off my old emotional baggage.  With this I achieved what I would have called happiness. I was vibrant and bubbly – maybe even a little over the top.

Then I went through divorce and happiness was out the window.  The emotional trauma of divorce pushed a lot of my hot buttons. Luckily the Universe (God) brought me a technique I call Emotional Hot Button Removal to release energy from my body as my buttons were pushed.  Using EHBR I dumped huge amounts of old baggage, baggage that I did not even know I had. This has allowed me to shift on the inside.

The result is that I am significantly calmer, more in touch with my intuition and happy most of the time. At certain times I experience unexplained deep senses of joy, gratitude and love for others and everything around me. This never happened before I started my quest.

So yes I believe that if we really want to find happiness we can;  I don’t think I am unique.

PS: I think that love is something that comes from inside of us, not from outside.  A commentary for another day!

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Are you setting intentions?

Tuesday, November 23rd, 2010

Video:   Sharing Intention from Toronto

When we want something to happen in our lives it is powerful to set a clear intention of what we would like to have happen.  When the time is right the universe will often create an opportunity for our intentions to become reality.  The trick is for us to recognize when the universe comes knocking.  To recognize these opportunities we need to listen to our intuition and know when to say “yes”.

I set an intention 18 months ago to use my finance skills again and opportunity knocked to become part of a great project with 9D Structures who want to build homes in Chili for earthquake survivors.  I am very excited to be part of this project.

What do you want in your life?

Video:  Rebuilding Chile http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FvaIpIg9QYU

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How does Intention Work?

Thursday, October 21st, 2010

Jacque speaks from Edmonton

Jacque speaks from Edmonton

Video Link: Divine Divorce Journey 1

Setting an intention and having it come to fruition can be easy or hard depending upon how you approach it.

For years I did it the hard way.   I would sit down once a year with myself for a planning session, set goals and then start diligently working towards the goals, being disappointed when I fell short of the goals.  What I missed seeing was all the work and progress that I had made along the way.  I was judgmental of myself for not producing the results that my mind planned twelve months prior.   I usually did a great job of keeping the target in focus and worked hard to take the appropriate actions to get there, the results just weren’t the planned ones.  Life often has a different plan for us than the one our mind makes up.  If we use our intuition to pay attention to what life is showing us we can produce amazing results in a relatively short time with ease and have more fun.

Over the past two years after going through divorce I changed the way I approach life.  I made the change because I did not have the energy to keep pushing myself while I was going through the divorce.  Life showed me that to survive, let alone thrive, I needed to cut back, stop pushing and take things one step at a time.  Using the Emotional Hot Button Removal Techniques I released the emotional energy that got in the way of me using my intuition.  I started to let my intuition guide me on where to focus my energy and how much energy to expend in any particular area.  I started to say No to activities where before I felt like I had to say Yes.

In conjunction with using my intuition, I set my intention for how I would like to” feel and experience life.”  My intention is to have fun, be vibrant and have a thrilling business.  I used this intention to help guide my direction and actions.  My intuition has made it clear that I am to write a book about my experience going through divorce and I am to share the Emotional Hot Button Removal techniques.  As a result of this knowing I started to write my book in January of 2010.

I also know that life for me is about adventure.  I went to Belize in December of 2009 and had the best vacation ever.  On the vacation I was being vibrant and had a ton of fun learning how to scuba dive and meeting the local people.  Because of this experience everyone asked when I was going back.  I just shrugged my shoulders, I had not thought about it.   Within three weeks all barriers that might prevent me from going to Belize to write my book disappeared.   I would now have to manufacturer a reason why I couldn’t go.  Which after being a coach for ten years I know this is a common occurrence for people, called sabotage.   So instead of manufacturing an excuse I used my wonderful mind  to figure out how I could have a virtual business and set this as another intention.   I figured out the technology required to continue coaching my clients and then I just let the rest unfold.

Over the next several months all the pieces for the adventure fell into place with ease.  Here is a video clip from the first leg of my journey.  Video Link: Divine Divorce Journey 1

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Feedback Helps Growth

Thursday, August 26th, 2010
The Truck has a new paint job!

The Truck has a new paint job!

To keep growing it takes courage to seek feedback and hear the truth from people that are close to us.  A new friend, Gary has been giving me feedback about how I am being.  I must admit that for the most part I did not understand what he was trying to tell me and I also had a lot of resistance to the message that I was hearing.   After all, I had already done a significant amount of personal development work and I really like the person that I have become.  Especially when I compare myself now to whom I use to be.

One of the things that I really appreciate about myself is that I am a committed and avid learner.  So although I had resistance to the message that I was hearing from Gary, I started to check out this messages with other people that are close to me.  Two things happened.   There were those people who love me for exactly who I am and the way that I am today.  These people questioned me about my desire and motivation to change.  Their basic position was that we are fundamentally who we are and that I am just fine the way I am.  I am just fine the way I am and sometimes the people who love us may not be helping us to grow.

I continued to seek more feedback. Due all the emotional energy that I had resolved over the last two years my intuition told me that Gary might have a point and something else might be possible.  One of my friends, Jim, indicated to me that we enter into intimate relationship with people to learn a lesson or resolve something in our life from the past.  Gary was clearly trying to illuminate something in me that was a blind spot.  The problem with a blind spot is that it is very tough to see it and have a clear picture of what could be resolved.  I explored the issue with another friend of mine, Peter, and he told me exactly what Gary had been trying to express, only he expressed it with a very visual image.  He gave the feedback to me in a classic way that put all my defences at rest.  He told me what was wonderful about me and then told me where the improvement might be.

Here is what Peter had to say.  “You have all these wonderful gifts that you use to support people through their turmoil and right now you are transporting these gifts around in a beat up pick-up truck.  These gifts that you have are so wonderful that they deserve to be transported in a brand new Chevy Silverado 3500HD pickup truck, with leather seats, air conditioning and a fantastic tie down system to hold all your wonderful gifts in place.”  When Peter painted this picture for me, I got exactly what Gary had been trying to tell me.  It wasn’t a matter of me being good enough or not good enough, it was that there is another way for me to be and that is “elegant.”

How do I become elegant?  No idea, but I am clear that it is possible and I know that the first step in accomplishing anything is to have a clear intent. And now I have that!

I am grateful to all my friends who provided feedback for me to explore this issue in greater depth.  It is awareness that allows us to continue growing.

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