Posts Tagged ‘Happiness’

Winning the Game of Work and Life

Thursday, March 11th, 2010

In a blog this morning  I read the famous Michael Gerber quote, “don’t work in your business, work on your business.”  What if  your business was a game?   How would that change how you related to the whole concept of working in your business?   How about your life, could you play it like a game?

  • What would your game be called?
  • What would your game board or playing field be like?
  • Who would be playing the game with you?
  • What would the rules be?
  • How would you define winning?

Exciting.  I love playing games.

This weekend I did just that, played the game of defining my Personal Life Game.  I went to California to play The Game Of ….  – Playing the Game You are Build 4  — See web site http://bit.ly/9yMFUY

The process was fun and creative and totally felt like playing.   I came out of the weekend with a  game plan for all of the above questions and more.  So how do I use the information that I have uncovered?

I am using it to clearly define how I want to show up in this world, who do I want to be and how do I want to experience the world.  It gives more clarity on the Intention that I had set for myself last year  – see article on setting intentions -http://bit.ly/c0jBzw .

I have already used the insights that I have gained in making decisions.  I am in the process of looking for accommodations to rent in Belize for this fall when I take my business fully virtual for 3 months.  It became evident that the accommodations that I was looking at renting would have suited me perfectly from a logistical point of view. In the past this would have signaled me to say “yes”.   However my intuition signaled to me that the tone of the living environment would have been the opposite of the fun, vibrant life that I want to live.  Just by playing my game, I would have pushed my land lady’s fear buttons, causing an emotional reaction leading to conflict.

This was not the kind of experience that I defined for winning the game of my Personal Life. I listened to my intuition and said” no” and I am continuing on my search.

In your business when are you making decisions about what you need to do because it seems to make good logical sense?  Yet  it  creates an experience that you would prefer not to be having.   This is typically what happens when we work in our business rather than working on it.   We are creating experiences for ourselves that do not leave us winning.

This fall I will bring The Game Of…  to Vancouver.   Check the web site above for other games being played in the United States.

May you win and master your own game.

Jacque

Work Easy Interview with Cindi Pree, Virtual Business Partner

Friday, February 26th, 2010

Upon meeting Cindi Pree of the Kulshan Group it was quickly apparent we shared similar views on working easy for life balance. Having started and operated a few businesses, she now shares her knowledge and expertise as a Virtual Business Partner. Visit Cindi at www.kulshangroup.com

Here’s her story.

Working Easy is huge for Cindi, but it hasn’t always been the case. A one-time home school mom, on top of all the usual routines, she, “spent many years running – berating myself for not getting enough done. That’s not working easy.”

After a divorce she decided to find a happier life, and came to understand there was a healthier way to work and live too.  Her search led her to meditation and spirituality. Jill Bolte Taylor’s “My Stroke of Insight” showed her how being disconnected from her right brain was tied into working hard. She gave herself permission to play – meditate, paint, even do nothing.

Cindi realized it wasn’t necessary to be frantic to be productive and she wasn’t going to do it anymore.

Past work with realtors working east coast hours and weekends, made Mondays hell. We worked frantically for 3 days to catch up, she says.  “Eventually I recognized a pattern though; we were always caught up by Wednesday and she developed a new mind set.  “It’s going to be OK,” she would tell herself and her staff.

Studying the teachings of Abraham she learned that time is a perception, it’s a human construct. The way we divide up the day is made up.  We have all kinds of time; it’s how we use it that counts. She alludes to Steven Covey’s Big Rock story. We need to decide what our big rocks are. “For me it used to be getting the work done. Now the priority is how I feel when I am working.  I continuously check in, moment to moment, and ask how it feels?”

Now if she puts in a long day it’s because she has done her ‘gut check’ and she’s doing it because she wants to, not because someone says she should or has to.

When asked what supports her in working easy she says, “It’s really important to know your strengths and weaknesses – analyze your work style and make sure what you’re doing works for you. Because I’m a linear person I look at and incorporate tools, systems and procedures, and create short cuts.”

Drawing on Lean Manufacturing, Kaizen and 6 Sigma principles, she strives for efficiency.  She asks Five Whys: ask yourself why you are doing something five times and you’ll get to the core of it.  If your answer is ‘because this is the way I’ve always done it’, or ‘because someone told me to’ there is likely room for change.

She looks for ways to be productive, “If I am more productive here, then I have more time to play!”

She always asks, “Does it benefit me? Is there a better way? Is there a better tool?  If I’m using a tool, am I using it the best way?” Fewer mouse clicks to complete a task shaves off time. Even if it’s a few hundredths of a second it adds up every time you repeat it

Are you sending the same kind of documents often? Create templates. Looking for the same website over and over again? Make shortcuts. If you are reaching across the desk to grab something many times a day, move it to where it is handy. Keep visual clues, and use color coding to track projects.

Cindi’s recommendation: “Get in the habit of finding something to change before you start each day. Once you start doing this and you see the increased ease you will find more and more ways to streamline. Even after all the years I’ve been doing this I still find myself asking why I’m doing things a particular way.”

She also recommends spending a little money to have someone show you how to use the tools you have efficiently. We get bombarded by new tools all the time, but we don’t need to run out and buy them all. Bottom-line: A mind set of looking for ease has to come first, otherwise implementing the time-saving real world stuff just leaves room to fill up with a longer ‘to do’ list.

I tried Cindi’s tip of starting my day with changing something.  I really like this and plan to continue!

Lynne

Finding our True Self

Friday, February 26th, 2010

The blog post below contains a story about Lora and her search for her true self after divorce.  It took divorce for her to start uncovering who she really is and what makes her happy.

The Search for Authenticity   http://bit.ly/aeKmT4

The question was posed, “why is this lesson one that so many of us have to learn the hard way?” “How can we help our children so they don’t have to learn the hard way?”

Why did I have to do it the hard way?  It was because I already had an idea of what life was suppose to be like as I matured into a young adult.  Get a good education, get a good job, find a man, have kids (this step never materialized) and this is what life is all about.  I continued  on this path until one day I realized I had lost all sense of happiness.   It wasn’t until then that I started asking the questions; What is life about?  What do I want?  I then went on a journey to find happiness.

On the journey I found out that I had to do lots of personal development work to drop off baggage from my growing up.  I think we all develop baggage — emotional conditioning — that we can choose to deal with in adult hood or not.  For me dropping off this baggage has allowed me to find my authentic self — who I really am when I am fully showing up as me.

I think we all need to do this as adults.  It seems to me the problem occurs because we avoid doing this work until a crisis precipitates — such as divorce — and then we start the journey.  In my case I started when I had major stress at work and was looking for happiness.

How do we help our kids?  Let them know that there is another kind of learning that they can do as adults — personal development and spiritual development.   There is more learning to do than what is taught in high school and university.

Is all the personal development learning worth it?  Absolutely.   I love who I have become and how I relate to people and all the opportunities that are in front of me.  Plus I get to use it for the rest of my life.

Jacque

Going from Working Hard to Working Easy

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

I spent the first 25 years of my career working hard and continuing with my education. My parents instilled in me the notion that if I got a good education and worked hard I would be successful in life.

They forgot to define a few things for me. Just exactly what is a good education? I spent a longtime in University and eventually obtained a Master Degree. I figured I was set for life on the learning front. As I progressed in my career and wasn’t feeling the sense of satisfaction that I thought I should have I once again signed up for another course.

The Chartered Financial Analyst designation (CFA) was the most difficult program that I had ever signed up for. I spent 6 months of the next 3 years reading text books and study guides on the bus. I studyed almost every weekend to the pass the 6 hour exam. I did all of this to get ahead in my finance career. Only to find out that the people I worked for really didn’t care that I had done all that work to be qualified to take on more challenge.

This was working hard. I had lost all sense of happiness and knew that I needed to make a change or I was going to die. There had to be more to life than this. The universe provided and I was offered an opportunity to leave with pay. Yahoo, this was working easy!

I said Yes, and I have never looked backed. I started the journey to find happiness in my life. I have been on this journey for the past 7 years. I have attended many seminars, none of them were as tough as the CFA degree and all of them were more useful. I am pleased to say that it has been a wonderful journey and not only have I achieved happiness, I have also achieved a strong sense of love for myself and others.

I look forward to sharing my journey, what I have learned and experienced along the way. I would like to inspire you to share your journey, to find work that is inspiring and to have a life filled with passion and joy. That’s what I call working easy and having life balance.

Welcome to the journey of an amazing life.

Love and Hugs,

Jacque

Life is too short to work hard!

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

When I came to the realization somewhere back in my twenties that I would be working to make a living for a good chunk of my life I decided that work should be fun. So I set out to find a career I enjoyed. The work I’ve done since has varied, with each career change bringing me closer to realizing my aspiration.

So what makes work fun? For me it’s doing things I enjoy. Initially I wanted to explore creativity and worked in media production. The creative process and intense schedules were exciting. I enjoyed the many learning curves as technology advanced and brought new challenges, but after awhile it got tiring. Next, I focused my attention on personal development outside of my career. I wanted to express my new spiritual ideals through work, but found that a little challenging. For a while I simply used my creativity to manifest work situations that served my financial and professional development needs. Now as a business coach, I get to share my creativity, my spiritual values, help others manifest their highest aspirations and I am fulfilled.

Fulfillment is what makes work easy and fulfillment is recognizing what brings us alive, what makes life meaningful, knowing what we value. When we are fulfilled, we like being engaged in the associated activities. If we are not fulfilled, it feels like a chore. For example, when I am having a meaningful conversation with a client that is helping them move forward in their business I am totally engaged and loving what is happening. It’s rewarding to me when they accomplish their goals and I empathize and aid in their learning when things don’t go as expected. I feel blessed to share the journey with them.

Through my own journey I’ve come to appreciate that each of us has a vocation that we are naturally suited to. The gifts and we are born with, the talent we develop and the skills we learn, combined with our passion, purpose and values add up to a unique way that we each make a contribution in our world through work. It’s not always immediately apparent to us though. We are cultured to value only what we have to work hard for. Yet because our greatest talents come to us easily we take them for granted, assuming everyone else has them too.

When we are finally able to shed the limiting beliefs and conditioning that keeps us from fully expressing our passion and using our greatest gifts, our hearts start to sing. Our true vocation is bliss. Work is easy and life becomes balanced. Many of the entrepreneurs I have the priviledge to work with are brilliant examples of this principle. I look forward to sharing some of thier stories with you.

Lynne Brisdon, PCC