Posts Tagged ‘Drepression’

The Drive for Wealth Reduces Happiness

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

An Article in the National Examiner reports how having a simpler life style contributes to greater happiness.  The article also indicates how the drive for material wealth is contributing to stress and ultimately increased depression in our society as evidenced by the volume of prescriptions for anti-depressants.

“Kasser also writes that people become more materialistic when they feel insecure about losing their safety and security and their perceived likelihood of satisfying their psychological needs. “For example,” writes Kasser, “children’s materialism is higher when they grow up in a family with a cold, controlling mother, when their parent’s divorce, and when they experience poverty.””

This lack of a sense of security is our emotional baggage and it come from our emotional conditioning, which are the things that happen to us in childhood.   We try to make up for this lack of security by wanting more things and more success.  What is missing is our own sense of security, which actually comes from inside of us.  We don’t have full access to our own sense of security because it is lost among our  emotional baggage. Empty out the emotional baggage and we feel more secure.

The alternative is more depression and stress related illnesses which are becoming a major concern in America.  A major cause of lost work time is due to stress related illnesses.  Stress related illnesses are costing companies millions of dollars and ultimately we are ruining our health. Our emotional conditioning has a huge impact on our health as discussed in Has Emotional Conditioning Impacted your Health? We can see from the statics reported below that our lack of mental and emotional health is a growing problem which adversely impacts productivity in business, the happiness in our lives and ultimately the environment.

“Dr. Mark Olfson of Columbia University in New York and Steven Marcus of the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia wrote in the Archives of General Psychiatry 2009 reported Reuters that “About 6 percent of people were prescribed an antidepressant in 1996 — 13 million people. This rose to more than 10 percent or 27 million people by 2005, the researchers found.More than 164 million prescriptions were written in 2008 for antidepressants, totaling $9.6 billion in U.S. sales, according to IMS Health.  These drugs are deposited in America’s drinking systems, often without a way to filter them out even with current sewage treatment methods.”

Link to the Full Article

Each of us needs to decide for ourselves do we take drugs to manage our accumulated emotional baggage or do we empty the baggage out and live a happier, healthier life. The choice is yours.

 

 

Feeling Connected to Others

Monday, April 19th, 2010
 White Rock Beach

White Rock Beach

Last  Friday I was musing about a post that I read on face book about back stabbing.  It occurred to me that one of the reasons we don’t stop ourselves from back stabbing or even talking about others is that we feel like we are separate from others. Like I am me and they are them and we are not one and the same.  Yet I know this is not true, we are all connected.

I have been know to come up with spontaneous ideas in the past that I take action on, which cause me to stretch and grow.  Like setting a goal of hugging a 1001 people and then doing it. You can read about it here,  http://ow.ly/1zvvW Well Friday morning called for just such an idea.  I had just finished drafting the introduction and chapter 1 of my book, two emotionally traumatic pieces of writing for me that have pushed my emotional hot buttons.  I had been working through the emotions all week and was feeling a little alone.  A new idea came to me, what about if I said “Good Morning” to as many people as possible on my run today.

I started to run keeping my head up, rather than looking at the ground, and I focused my attention on the next person, or couple, that was approaching me and in a clear voice I said “good morning”.  Now the benefit for me of doing this is that it was like a meditation, I had a pretty quiet mind throughout the whole process.  I am not a very accomplished runner and my mind could only handle 3 things at once — putting my focus on the up coming person, keeping count and breathing.   I have found breathing to be a necessary part of running!

About a third of the way through the run I had accumulated 20 “good mornings”, so I set a goal of 60.  That would be at least 60 people that I connected with, even for just a fraction of a second. How would people respond?  Some people’s face lit up when they made eye contact with me and heard the warm “good morning”.  Some people broke their conversation for a moment, responded, and then went right back to where they were.  Others interrupted their cell phone call to respond.  And a very few kept looking at the ground and did not respond at all.

How rude you say?  No, the story that I wrote in my mind, it was for these people that I reached out to make contact.  For what ever reason they are not comfortable with contact and they keep themselves separate.  I think it is this sense of separateness that helps to keep us from feeling loved, that causes us to have negative thoughts about others and to speak about others in a negative way.  I think this is where back stabbing really comes from.  It comes from a place of insecurity and lacking love.

By reaching out with our eyes, our hearts and kind words we can touch people even if it is just for a moment.  We can have empathy.

And in the process we might meet a new friend who also likes to touch people.  There were no more people on the boardwalk at the end of my run.  I had 98 “good mornings”. My ego wanted a 100.  So I walked back and called over to Ruth who was walking on the grass, “excuse me I just wanted to say good morning.”  She asked what was I up to and I told her.  I still needed one more person to make my stretch goal.  She said, I have been watching  that person down on the log , he looks like someone who needs a “good morning”.  So I walked down to the beach and said “good morning” and wished him a good day.

Happiness and joy filled my heart as I walked to the parking lot to get into my car.

Who can you connect with and touch today?  Who can you have empathy for when they speak negatively about someone?  And maybe by not repeating the story and giving it energy, it will quietly disappear.

Jacque

Women’s Health and Depression

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

Did you know 1 in 8 women will suffer from depression in their life?

For myself I have touched up against this at least twice in my life.   The first time was when an  unfortunate and traumatic event occurred at work causing huge stress. The second time was last year when I was facing the prospect of divorce.  Major events can cause a lot of stress and these events push our “emotional hot buttons”.

The attached article provides a wonderful summary of depression and the warning signs for depression.  Unfortunately we can be really good at ignoring the early warning signs and just keep soldiering on.   I know, I did, and I just talked to a woman yesterday who is right in the middle of it.

Here is the link to the article.  http://us1.campaign-archive.com/?u=f9aa97b7af9b37ce524bcab00&id=ce81a9341c&e=1e5c4ed479

The article makes some great suggestions on how to over come depression.   The first 3 options, diet, exercise and vitamins can be used to prevent as well as manage depression.  From my experience there is at least one if not many other avenues to avert depression, prior to drug therapy.

In my case I did extensive work to resolve the emotional conditioning from my past that caused me to be fearful and shut down.  Due the pending divorce I was afraid to be alone and if things just stayed the same then I would be safe.

I participated in, and now teach, Core Dynamics Coaching.  These techniques released a tremendous amount of energy that had been stored in my body.  As a result most of my fears have dissolved, I have no anxiety and I feel an amazing sense of joy.

There are alternatives to drug therapy if we are willing to recognize our situation and take positive action early.   You can dissolve your “emotional hot buttons” and I believe avoid depression.  What avoids depression also leads to greater happiness, better life balance.  Not to mention that work will feel easier when you feeling good.

Jacque