Posts Tagged ‘Balance’

Feedback Helps Growth

Thursday, August 26th, 2010
The Truck has a new paint job!

The Truck has a new paint job!

To keep growing it takes courage to seek feedback and hear the truth from people that are close to us.  A new friend, Gary has been giving me feedback about how I am being.  I must admit that for the most part I did not understand what he was trying to tell me and I also had a lot of resistance to the message that I was hearing.   After all, I had already done a significant amount of personal development work and I really like the person that I have become.  Especially when I compare myself now to whom I use to be.

One of the things that I really appreciate about myself is that I am a committed and avid learner.  So although I had resistance to the message that I was hearing from Gary, I started to check out this messages with other people that are close to me.  Two things happened.   There were those people who love me for exactly who I am and the way that I am today.  These people questioned me about my desire and motivation to change.  Their basic position was that we are fundamentally who we are and that I am just fine the way I am.  I am just fine the way I am and sometimes the people who love us may not be helping us to grow.

I continued to seek more feedback. Due all the emotional energy that I had resolved over the last two years my intuition told me that Gary might have a point and something else might be possible.  One of my friends, Jim, indicated to me that we enter into intimate relationship with people to learn a lesson or resolve something in our life from the past.  Gary was clearly trying to illuminate something in me that was a blind spot.  The problem with a blind spot is that it is very tough to see it and have a clear picture of what could be resolved.  I explored the issue with another friend of mine, Peter, and he told me exactly what Gary had been trying to express, only he expressed it with a very visual image.  He gave the feedback to me in a classic way that put all my defences at rest.  He told me what was wonderful about me and then told me where the improvement might be.

Here is what Peter had to say.  “You have all these wonderful gifts that you use to support people through their turmoil and right now you are transporting these gifts around in a beat up pick-up truck.  These gifts that you have are so wonderful that they deserve to be transported in a brand new Chevy Silverado 3500HD pickup truck, with leather seats, air conditioning and a fantastic tie down system to hold all your wonderful gifts in place.”  When Peter painted this picture for me, I got exactly what Gary had been trying to tell me.  It wasn’t a matter of me being good enough or not good enough, it was that there is another way for me to be and that is “elegant.”

How do I become elegant?  No idea, but I am clear that it is possible and I know that the first step in accomplishing anything is to have a clear intent. And now I have that!

I am grateful to all my friends who provided feedback for me to explore this issue in greater depth.  It is awareness that allows us to continue growing.

Walking our Talk with Working Easy

Wednesday, April 7th, 2010
Watching the Coast Guard work while we work.

Watching the Coast Guard work while we work.

Beyond publishing this blog we really are committed to working easy 4 life balance.

If you’ve been following our posts you’ve probably noticed that we like having fun too.  Sometimes this means being flexible and doing things outside the box of running a business.  When we formed our strategic alliance we decided to have  regular meetings, and we’ve been really consistent at sticking to our commitment. It’s such a wonderful way to hold ourselves accountable and stimulate creative synergy.  It’s way more fun than having an internal meeting with me, myself and I.

We usually have our meetings on the phone, which requires each of us to be in our offices – or not….  sometimes one of us is on a cell phone, travelling in another city, or country.  As long as one of us is on the computer to record pertintent notes it works beautifully.  The other day I had another meeting scheduled not long after our call, but it was a 1.5 hr commute away.  I pulled out my blue tooth headset jumped in the car and we continued our meeting.  It was an extraordinarily productive brainstorming session and we mapped out the next steps for our strategic alliance for the coming months.

What was really interesting to me, is my commute time is usually very unproductive, other than getting me where I need to go.  I often get brainwaves for building the business, but seldom record the ideas.  The better ones will run in the background of my consciousness, adding to the internal to do list and then to the heap of things not done.  Ever notice how we can conjure up far more activity in our imagination than we can ever accomplish in real time?

Anyway, what was exceptional about this drive, was Jacque was on the other end of the phone, to capture our creative ideas.  We now have topics for speaking engagements, the next few issues of our newsletters and Catalyst-LIVE radio shows .  And it was all incredibly easy and fun!

I highly recommend working collaboratively, or having a business building buddy.  It really does make work easier.

Winning the Game of Work and Life

Thursday, March 11th, 2010

In a blog this morning  I read the famous Michael Gerber quote, “don’t work in your business, work on your business.”  What if  your business was a game?   How would that change how you related to the whole concept of working in your business?   How about your life, could you play it like a game?

  • What would your game be called?
  • What would your game board or playing field be like?
  • Who would be playing the game with you?
  • What would the rules be?
  • How would you define winning?

Exciting.  I love playing games.

This weekend I did just that, played the game of defining my Personal Life Game.  I went to California to play The Game Of ….  – Playing the Game You are Build 4  — See web site http://bit.ly/9yMFUY

The process was fun and creative and totally felt like playing.   I came out of the weekend with a  game plan for all of the above questions and more.  So how do I use the information that I have uncovered?

I am using it to clearly define how I want to show up in this world, who do I want to be and how do I want to experience the world.  It gives more clarity on the Intention that I had set for myself last year  – see article on setting intentions -http://bit.ly/c0jBzw .

I have already used the insights that I have gained in making decisions.  I am in the process of looking for accommodations to rent in Belize for this fall when I take my business fully virtual for 3 months.  It became evident that the accommodations that I was looking at renting would have suited me perfectly from a logistical point of view. In the past this would have signaled me to say “yes”.   However my intuition signaled to me that the tone of the living environment would have been the opposite of the fun, vibrant life that I want to live.  Just by playing my game, I would have pushed my land lady’s fear buttons, causing an emotional reaction leading to conflict.

This was not the kind of experience that I defined for winning the game of my Personal Life. I listened to my intuition and said” no” and I am continuing on my search.

In your business when are you making decisions about what you need to do because it seems to make good logical sense?  Yet  it  creates an experience that you would prefer not to be having.   This is typically what happens when we work in our business rather than working on it.   We are creating experiences for ourselves that do not leave us winning.

This fall I will bring The Game Of…  to Vancouver.   Check the web site above for other games being played in the United States.

May you win and master your own game.

Jacque

Work Easy Interview with Cindi Pree, Virtual Business Partner

Friday, February 26th, 2010

Upon meeting Cindi Pree of the Kulshan Group it was quickly apparent we shared similar views on working easy for life balance. Having started and operated a few businesses, she now shares her knowledge and expertise as a Virtual Business Partner. Visit Cindi at www.kulshangroup.com

Here’s her story.

Working Easy is huge for Cindi, but it hasn’t always been the case. A one-time home school mom, on top of all the usual routines, she, “spent many years running – berating myself for not getting enough done. That’s not working easy.”

After a divorce she decided to find a happier life, and came to understand there was a healthier way to work and live too.  Her search led her to meditation and spirituality. Jill Bolte Taylor’s “My Stroke of Insight” showed her how being disconnected from her right brain was tied into working hard. She gave herself permission to play – meditate, paint, even do nothing.

Cindi realized it wasn’t necessary to be frantic to be productive and she wasn’t going to do it anymore.

Past work with realtors working east coast hours and weekends, made Mondays hell. We worked frantically for 3 days to catch up, she says.  “Eventually I recognized a pattern though; we were always caught up by Wednesday and she developed a new mind set.  “It’s going to be OK,” she would tell herself and her staff.

Studying the teachings of Abraham she learned that time is a perception, it’s a human construct. The way we divide up the day is made up.  We have all kinds of time; it’s how we use it that counts. She alludes to Steven Covey’s Big Rock story. We need to decide what our big rocks are. “For me it used to be getting the work done. Now the priority is how I feel when I am working.  I continuously check in, moment to moment, and ask how it feels?”

Now if she puts in a long day it’s because she has done her ‘gut check’ and she’s doing it because she wants to, not because someone says she should or has to.

When asked what supports her in working easy she says, “It’s really important to know your strengths and weaknesses – analyze your work style and make sure what you’re doing works for you. Because I’m a linear person I look at and incorporate tools, systems and procedures, and create short cuts.”

Drawing on Lean Manufacturing, Kaizen and 6 Sigma principles, she strives for efficiency.  She asks Five Whys: ask yourself why you are doing something five times and you’ll get to the core of it.  If your answer is ‘because this is the way I’ve always done it’, or ‘because someone told me to’ there is likely room for change.

She looks for ways to be productive, “If I am more productive here, then I have more time to play!”

She always asks, “Does it benefit me? Is there a better way? Is there a better tool?  If I’m using a tool, am I using it the best way?” Fewer mouse clicks to complete a task shaves off time. Even if it’s a few hundredths of a second it adds up every time you repeat it

Are you sending the same kind of documents often? Create templates. Looking for the same website over and over again? Make shortcuts. If you are reaching across the desk to grab something many times a day, move it to where it is handy. Keep visual clues, and use color coding to track projects.

Cindi’s recommendation: “Get in the habit of finding something to change before you start each day. Once you start doing this and you see the increased ease you will find more and more ways to streamline. Even after all the years I’ve been doing this I still find myself asking why I’m doing things a particular way.”

She also recommends spending a little money to have someone show you how to use the tools you have efficiently. We get bombarded by new tools all the time, but we don’t need to run out and buy them all. Bottom-line: A mind set of looking for ease has to come first, otherwise implementing the time-saving real world stuff just leaves room to fill up with a longer ‘to do’ list.

I tried Cindi’s tip of starting my day with changing something.  I really like this and plan to continue!

Lynne

Doing What You Love

Monday, January 18th, 2010
Living my passion.

Living my passion.

This weekend I was spending time with a friend of mine up at Whistler to go downhill skiing. I have gone downhill skiing every winter now for the last 18 years. This year my husband and I got divorced, so all of a sudden I need to find new people to ski with. This weekend I spent it with a girlfriend that I have had for 22 years.

Living with my friend for the weekend allowed me to get reconnected with her and find out what is going on in her life. Both the good and the bad, if there is good and bad, it might just be what is so in the evolution of our life.

On Saturday we had a spectacular day downhill skiing. There was fresh snow on Friday, the sun was glistening off the mountain peaks that surrounded us in a 360 degree panoramic view from the mountain top.

This was my first day downhill skiing of the year so my legs were in no shape for a second round on Sunday. Instead we went cross country skiing. I have not been cross country skiing in about 8 years. When we got out on the trails, there was tranquility and peace. We crossed several small bridges over creaks. Snow was piled on top of the rocks in the steam with water rushing its way to the river in the valley. Peace and tranquility filled my heart with an over whelming sense of joy. I had forgoten how much I loved cross country skiing.

What is something that you use to love to do and have not done for a long time? What about looking up an old friend or maybe calling a new one and becoming reacquainted with something that use to bring you joy?

Setting aside the things that our mind makes up as must do’s and getting out to enjoy something that we love is what creates life balance.

I think dancing is next for me.

Jacque