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7 Benefits of Working Collaboratively for Life Balance

Wednesday, December 7th, 2011

Christmas is a great time to reflect on what we have to be grateful for over the past year, what has worked and what we would like to do more of.

My partner Lynne and I set the intention two years ago to work easy.  Since then we have worked collaboratively to teach people how to release their emotional baggage quickly and easily, giving them back their life.

Working collaboratively has been invaluable for both of us in our business. The benefits we have received are as follows:

Less Money

I knew I needed to do more to promote my coaching practice but believed I would need to invest more money to do so.  Working together we combined our resources for Maestro Conferences and Constant Contact to promote our businesses.  Plus we invested in the development of the www.workeasy4lifebalance.com blog.

Saves Time

We joined forces to collaboratively promote our businesses by jointly writing a monthly newsletter and blog articles.  In less than an hour each month we were able to quickly outline each month’s newsletter.  Developing the articles felt like a breeze. Plus jointly developing and delivering our Emotional Hot Button Removal Workshops, rather than competing, saved both of us a lot of time.

Creativity and Productivity

Working together we came up with more creative ideas to promote our services. Instead of struggling on our own through the process of coming up with ideas for articles, in conversation knowledge that we want to share freely flows out of us. We decided to start the free monthly Catalyst LIVE! tele-call to share our expertise for living magical lives with listeners.  Working collaboratively greatly increased productivity as well as enhancing the quality of ideas generated.

Learning

We each have unique talents and strengths that we can share as partners. I always learned something from Lynne who has spent 20 years exploring spirituality in both formal and informal learning settings.  I bring a vast knowledge of business to our relationship that Lynne can draw from for her business and to support her clients who are entrepreneurs.

Support

Mastermind partners are a huge source of support.  This is especially true for Lynne and I as we are both coaches.  We use our coaching skills to support each other’s personal growth and business development; especially if either of us is emotionally triggered. We are able to use our unique coaching techniques to bring our emotional reactions to completion and keep moving forward. I know I have certainly benefited from all the coaching that Lynne has provided me.

Accountability

Our agreement to meet regularly every Monday morning has kept us on track to keep building our businesses. Our commitment to one another has been invaluable to take on new challenges.  Over the last year I was very dedicated to writing my book “Divine Divorce” and without our scheduled meetings it would have been very easy to lose my focus on the promotion and development of my business and to let our workshops lapse.  Most of our business meetings start with a check in, allowing us to clear anything that might keep us from being at the top of our game.  Our partnership has kept both of us focused on all aspects of our business.

Fun

Finally, another intention we set was to have fun and do work that we love. This way work would feel easy rather than hard. By bouncing ideas off each other we inspire each other, giving us more energy to pour into our work and life. We have fun, get things done with ease, and produce better work together than either one of us could have done on our own.

Working together really has made our lives easier and given us life balance. Who could wish for anything more for their life than inspiring work they love and a sense of balance in their life?

Who could you work more collaborative with?

 

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A “Wholehearted” Life is Magical

Thursday, August 25th, 2011
I would like to introduce you to Brene Brown , she did a 10 year sociology study of shame and discovered a group of people who live life from a really “wholehearted place.”  We started our journey at about the same time and have come to the same conclusions. Brene studied other people and I went through the process one step at a time.
I spent the last 10 years finding happiness.  Actually it took me 7 years to find happiness and over the last 3 years I dug myself out of the emotional disaster of divorce and discovered what a Magical Life feels like. I now fully live in the “wholehearted place” that Brene talks about in her book.
My solution for getting to this place is a little different than Brene’s, in fact it is more of an add on.  It is more than being able to look at the world from a different perspective, have different thoughts and take different actions.  To get to the magical place with a sense of ease we need to drop off our emotional baggage — especially fear, disappointment, anger and not feeling good enough.  When we do this we can move into the place of vulnerability exponentially fast and start creating new possibilities, be that at work or in our relationships or maybe both!
Needing control, shuts down vulnerability, which stops us from in living into our ideal magical life.  Give Brene’s book, The Gifts of Imperfection, a read.  Get the idea of what is possible.
If you want to achieve a Miracle Life fast I can show you the shortest and quickest path, the rest is up to you. If you are ready to start this journey,  I would love to have you come and play with me in Belize, where I am living my Magical Life.  Here are links to my two of my offerings:
A Divine Adventure in Belize —  http://bit.ly/pdueuj
Divine Conversations for Couples in Belize   http://bit.ly/pTH7oG
My new motto is “Divorcing your partner is optional, divorcing your emotional baggage is not.”

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The Drive for Wealth Reduces Happiness

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

An Article in the National Examiner reports how having a simpler life style contributes to greater happiness.  The article also indicates how the drive for material wealth is contributing to stress and ultimately increased depression in our society as evidenced by the volume of prescriptions for anti-depressants.

“Kasser also writes that people become more materialistic when they feel insecure about losing their safety and security and their perceived likelihood of satisfying their psychological needs. “For example,” writes Kasser, “children’s materialism is higher when they grow up in a family with a cold, controlling mother, when their parent’s divorce, and when they experience poverty.””

This lack of a sense of security is our emotional baggage and it come from our emotional conditioning, which are the things that happen to us in childhood.   We try to make up for this lack of security by wanting more things and more success.  What is missing is our own sense of security, which actually comes from inside of us.  We don’t have full access to our own sense of security because it is lost among our  emotional baggage. Empty out the emotional baggage and we feel more secure.

The alternative is more depression and stress related illnesses which are becoming a major concern in America.  A major cause of lost work time is due to stress related illnesses.  Stress related illnesses are costing companies millions of dollars and ultimately we are ruining our health. Our emotional conditioning has a huge impact on our health as discussed in Has Emotional Conditioning Impacted your Health? We can see from the statics reported below that our lack of mental and emotional health is a growing problem which adversely impacts productivity in business, the happiness in our lives and ultimately the environment.

“Dr. Mark Olfson of Columbia University in New York and Steven Marcus of the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia wrote in the Archives of General Psychiatry 2009 reported Reuters that “About 6 percent of people were prescribed an antidepressant in 1996 — 13 million people. This rose to more than 10 percent or 27 million people by 2005, the researchers found.More than 164 million prescriptions were written in 2008 for antidepressants, totaling $9.6 billion in U.S. sales, according to IMS Health.  These drugs are deposited in America’s drinking systems, often without a way to filter them out even with current sewage treatment methods.”

Link to the Full Article

Each of us needs to decide for ourselves do we take drugs to manage our accumulated emotional baggage or do we empty the baggage out and live a happier, healthier life. The choice is yours.

 

 

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Can we find Happiness?

Tuesday, June 21st, 2011

I read an article in Psychology Today http://ow.ly/1737dU that suggested that happiness can not be found.  In fact that if we try to find happiness that it will guarantee that we won`t be able to find it.

“Maybe it’s just me, but happiness in the sense of fulfillment—not momentary, hedonic pleasure—is not something that can be consciously and deliberately sought, because the very process of seeking it will ensure that you will not find it.”, according to Mark D. White, author of the article. As much as I appreciate Mark`s perspective, I think we cause our own happiness. We cause it by who we are being and by what we choose to do.

One day eight years ago, when I was driving into Vancouver, BC on a spring morning and looking at the beautiful snow capped mountains, I thought  ’oh how beautiful, I am happy.”  There was the problem, I thought about happiness, I did not feel it and happiness is a feeling.

A spectacular sight

A spectacular sight

I went on a quest to find happiness, because I had lost all sense of it.  Happiness had become a thought in my head and I recognized it was no longer a feeling in my body.  I had lost it.

I won’t take you through a blow by blow account of how I did it.:-)  I will give you the generalities.  I changed the way I was thinking and I changed the way I was responding to people.  Plus I started to drop off my old emotional baggage.  With this I achieved what I would have called happiness. I was vibrant and bubbly – maybe even a little over the top.

Then I went through divorce and happiness was out the window.  The emotional trauma of divorce pushed a lot of my hot buttons. Luckily the Universe (God) brought me a technique I call Emotional Hot Button Removal to release energy from my body as my buttons were pushed.  Using EHBR I dumped huge amounts of old baggage, baggage that I did not even know I had. This has allowed me to shift on the inside.

The result is that I am significantly calmer, more in touch with my intuition and happy most of the time. At certain times I experience unexplained deep senses of joy, gratitude and love for others and everything around me. This never happened before I started my quest.

So yes I believe that if we really want to find happiness we can;  I don’t think I am unique.

PS: I think that love is something that comes from inside of us, not from outside.  A commentary for another day!

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Eliminate Your Emotional Reactions

Monday, August 30th, 2010
Feeling a little frustrated?

Feeling a little frustrated?

How much EASIER would your life be if you did not have to constantly manage your emotional reactions?  Imagine having a positive impact on your relationships with others, without expending as much energy to do so. It is finally possible to resolve the emotional energy that causes emotional reactions. What are Management Strategies? Management strategies use your ability to think.   Almost all personal development, coaching and counselling are based on exploring and changing your thinking.  In the coaching and personal development work I’m most familiar with, our conversations explore the following areas:

  • Taking 100% responsibility for everything that happens in your life and not being a victim or blaming others.
  • Habits – choosing things to positively serve your body and your life rather than doing things which suppress emotions and have negative impacts; such as too much sugar, alcohol, smoking, lack of sleep, too many hours in front of a TV or computer, to mention a few.
  • Attitudes – recognizing whether you experience things from a positive perspective or negative perspective.  Is the glass half full or half empty?
  • Beliefs – challenging what you believe to be true about the way the world works.
  • Control – attempting to redirect your emotional reactions; stopping yourself from being upset and having a negative impact.

Managing all of these areas takes focus and energy, and over time you will change some of your habits, attitudes and beliefs. This allows you to live a happier life, because you are more resourceful in the moment,  able to control your emotional reactions and you can take more responsibility for what is happening in your life.  Life will be better.  With practice and continuous work it certainly was for me. And there is something even easier: resolving energy. What is RESOLVING? Resolving virtually eliminates the need to constantly be managing and controlling your emotions.  What you were previously managing becomes easy, and upsetting emotional reactions virtually disappear over time.  You get to experience more bliss in life. Resolving the energy that causes emotional reactions is like draining old sludge out of your battery to make room for more vibrant energy to fuel your life.   It is the old sludge energy from past emotional conditioning that causes you to have emotional reactions such as frustration, anger, anxiety, worry and fear.  By resolving you are eliminating energy from your body rather than adding new thinking or learning.  It is like deleting a virus from your personal human hard drive. I was recently doing this work with a friend of mine and his relatively new big flat panel TV stopped working one day.  His normal reaction would have been to get angry and upset.  Instead he very calmly dealt with the situation, finding someone to help him take the TV in to be serviced on warranty.  He didn’t have to expend any energy on being angry or on trying to control an emotional reaction.  He just took care of business. When is it good to Manage? Being able to manage your emotions is very useful in the moment when situations occur that push your emotional hot buttons (associated with unresolved underlying energy).  When you are resourceful in the moment your actions will have a positive impact on the people around you.  Having a positive impact is always a good thing in my books! Then at a later point in time you can sit down and resolve the energy. How do you Resolve the old energy? We will show you how in the Emotional Hot Button Removal workshop.  Click Here for more information

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