Archive for the ‘Life Balance’ Category

What are the impacts of Addictions at Work?

Friday, August 5th, 2011

The cost of addictions in the workplace is high. Substance abuse and dependence can be the cause of absenteeism, accidents, injury, death, poor work quality and costly mistakes, reduced morale, productivity loss, staff turnover, co-worker disputes, property damage and theft. “An employee with substance abuse problems can cost between 25 – 50% of their salary through low productivity, sickness and accidents.” It is estimated approximately 6% of workers suffer from additions to drug and alcohol.

Most statistics on addiction are based on alcohol or drug abuse.  These statistics do not take into account the significant health problems that come from eating disorders and food addictions.  It is estimated that stress and depression costs the Canadian economy more than $50 billion a year and are responsible for a significant amount of absenteeism at work.

A study in 2010 by the Center for Addictions and Health states the following:

“The average short-term physical disability leave is about 33 days, and on average employers pay $9,000 for each case. The study found the most common reasons employees take physical disability leave include respiratory illness, muscular skeletal problems, injury and digestive disorders.

Meanwhile, depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder are the mental illnesses that appear most in the Canadian workforce, with each case leading to an average 65-day leave and $18,000 bill.” As reported in the study by the Centre for Addictions and Mental Health.

It is often stress at work and at home that leads people to succumb to an addiction in the first place.  Our substance of choice is used to numb out the emotions provoked by the stressful situations of life.  Two major factors; unresolved emotional conditioning carried from childhood and reactions to the stressful situations play off each other in a dynamic process to provoke emotional reactions.

With a backlog of unresolved emotional baggage from childhood, employees are not able to withstand pressures in the work place, such as:

  • shift work and long work hours
  • poor job design, including boring or extremely demanding work
  • unrealistic deadlines and performance targets, or inadequate resources
  • lack of opportunity to participate in decision making
  • inadequate training and supervisory support
  • bullying, harassment or victimisation at work
  • fear of job loss and uncertainty about the future
  • Family and social problems.   Link to article on problems with addictions at home.

Part of the solution is to support employees in letting go of their “emotional baggage”.  When we do this we are addressing the cause of the problem, rather than the symptom which is addiction.

 

The Drive for Wealth Reduces Happiness

Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

An Article in the National Examiner reports how having a simpler life style contributes to greater happiness.  The article also indicates how the drive for material wealth is contributing to stress and ultimately increased depression in our society as evidenced by the volume of prescriptions for anti-depressants.

“Kasser also writes that people become more materialistic when they feel insecure about losing their safety and security and their perceived likelihood of satisfying their psychological needs. “For example,” writes Kasser, “children’s materialism is higher when they grow up in a family with a cold, controlling mother, when their parent’s divorce, and when they experience poverty.””

This lack of a sense of security is our emotional baggage and it come from our emotional conditioning, which are the things that happen to us in childhood.   We try to make up for this lack of security by wanting more things and more success.  What is missing is our own sense of security, which actually comes from inside of us.  We don’t have full access to our own sense of security because it is lost among our  emotional baggage. Empty out the emotional baggage and we feel more secure.

The alternative is more depression and stress related illnesses which are becoming a major concern in America.  A major cause of lost work time is due to stress related illnesses.  Stress related illnesses are costing companies millions of dollars and ultimately we are ruining our health. Our emotional conditioning has a huge impact on our health as discussed in Has Emotional Conditioning Impacted your Health? We can see from the statics reported below that our lack of mental and emotional health is a growing problem which adversely impacts productivity in business, the happiness in our lives and ultimately the environment.

“Dr. Mark Olfson of Columbia University in New York and Steven Marcus of the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia wrote in the Archives of General Psychiatry 2009 reported Reuters that “About 6 percent of people were prescribed an antidepressant in 1996 — 13 million people. This rose to more than 10 percent or 27 million people by 2005, the researchers found.More than 164 million prescriptions were written in 2008 for antidepressants, totaling $9.6 billion in U.S. sales, according to IMS Health.  These drugs are deposited in America’s drinking systems, often without a way to filter them out even with current sewage treatment methods.”

Link to the Full Article

Each of us needs to decide for ourselves do we take drugs to manage our accumulated emotional baggage or do we empty the baggage out and live a happier, healthier life. The choice is yours.

 

 

Honoring Relationship Intentions

Saturday, March 19th, 2011

Have you noticed that when your work life balance is off it affects your relationships?  And when you have concerns about relationshp it affects your focus at work?  Many people who come to  our Emotional Hot Button Removal workshops tell us it’s their relationship issues that push their buttons.  We’ve also noticed  that many people who hire us for coaching come to work on life balance concerns related to work, but we also end up looking at their relationships.  

We’ve talked about setting intentions and that relates to relationships too.  Here’s something from my own experience I’d like to share. When my husband and I  got together we had each been in two long term relationships before and had very clear ideas of what we intended in our new relationship. 

When we decided to get married we were very intentional about what we were committing to.  Looking for the right words we came across a peice my husband wrote several years before we met.  It resonated so much we made part of our vows, 5 years ago on the first day of spring. 

“Come.  Let us join hands – and walk together.  And let our differences be but a testimony to understanding.  And let understanding be the foundation for love.  And let that love put stars beneath our feet.  That they may float to carry through the heavens.Still In Love!

And hand in hand may we pass through the gate.  To where once we stood – gazing out before we parted.  To a place I see through misted veils.  To the garden of our youth.

   And let us pause along the way to speak with those with whom we meet.  And tell them of our journey – of where it is we’re off to be.  And extend a hand if they should ask – that we might enter not alone.

   And if they should choose another route – or if they should simply rest beside the road – then let us love them where we meet.  That they might carry a part of us – and we a part of them.  For it may be theirs to bring up the rear – or watch the flanks.  To see that none get lost or left behind.  Or they may simply be waiting for a friend.

   And if we should travel ahead of some then let us fill our days with smoothing the trail.  That those who follow may move with ease.  For the trail walked by those before was a rougher trail than that we see today.

   And if somewhere along the way I should have to rest – then go ahead.  Continue on your way.  Work along the trail.  I’ll join you shortly.  And if it should be the other way then I shall do the same.  And when at last we’re gathered there looking back the way we came – we shall find that that is also the way we went.  And that through all of this we were but a breath away.”

Lynne Brisdon, PCC

www.livinginvision.com

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Celebrate Your Intentions

Wednesday, February 2nd, 2011

February 2, recognized as Ground Hog Day in North America has links to the Pagan celebration of Imbolc or Oimelc, later Christianized as Candlemas.

Read more about the origins and traditions of Candlemas  and Blessed Imbolc

Traditionally it is a time to celebrate returning light, new beginnings, the birthing of that which has been gestating through the dark of winter.

 What are you birthing in your consciousness? What intentions have you set for yourself in the beginning of the year? How ready are you to take action? 

Rather than be trapped by repeating old patterns, over and over like Bill Murray’s character in the movie “Groundhog Day”, now is the time to commit to new ways of being to get different and better results.

 1. What will bring your life back into balance? Are you feeling like its all work, no joy? What does your heart need to bring more passion, fun and aliveness into your life?  Even doing small things, like taking more walks in the forest or singing to lift your spirits,  will balance your heart energy and  maintain aliveness.

2. Have a clear mental image of how you want to be seen by others and more importantly how you want to see yourself.  Clearly describe the kind of person you are in your highest potential. Decide on activities which will reinforce this new image.  Commit to checking in with yourself on a daily basis to track your progress.  Make note of your accomplishments and what you appreciate about yourself.

3. Recognize the challenge of making change for what it is.  There are parts of your brain and your internal wiring that resist change and want to maintain the status quo.  They kick up all kinds of fuss and can make it really uncomfortable. When you feel this way, know you are making progress and find a way to get past the terror of changing.  This is where coaching and removing past conditioning can be a real support in breaking out of old patterns.

 4. When you’ve made a breakthrough and accomplished your goal, celebrate! Treat yourself to a favorite activity. Do something you really enjoy (see #1)

 Last week for example I had an intensely busy schedule and was feeling energetically stretched, plus I  committed to calling people who seemed interested in a workshop I was co-delivering. Making ‘sales’ calls is not one of my favorite activities, in fact I felt shear terror at the prospect.  I knew I needed to keep my energy up so went for a walk early in the morning. I called my colleague Jacque and we did some emotional hot button removal techniques on my triggered emotions. Then I made the calls and got some positive responses and more registrations for Saturday’s workshop.  After making the calls I took time to consciously enjoy dinner with my husband.  Then on Sunday I took a day off.  It was a little cold for motorcycling so we went for a lovely hike in a beautiful seaside park.  At one point while near the water’s edge I noticed dolphins surfacing nearby, they actually came closer and it felt like they were acknowledging my presence. What a healing gift from nature for stepping way out of my comfort zones and keeping my energy up through a busy week.

En- Joy Your Self! 

Lynne

How does Intention Work?

Thursday, October 21st, 2010

Jacque speaks from Edmonton

Jacque speaks from Edmonton

Video Link: Divine Divorce Journey 1

Setting an intention and having it come to fruition can be easy or hard depending upon how you approach it.

For years I did it the hard way.   I would sit down once a year with myself for a planning session, set goals and then start diligently working towards the goals, being disappointed when I fell short of the goals.  What I missed seeing was all the work and progress that I had made along the way.  I was judgmental of myself for not producing the results that my mind planned twelve months prior.   I usually did a great job of keeping the target in focus and worked hard to take the appropriate actions to get there, the results just weren’t the planned ones.  Life often has a different plan for us than the one our mind makes up.  If we use our intuition to pay attention to what life is showing us we can produce amazing results in a relatively short time with ease and have more fun.

Over the past two years after going through divorce I changed the way I approach life.  I made the change because I did not have the energy to keep pushing myself while I was going through the divorce.  Life showed me that to survive, let alone thrive, I needed to cut back, stop pushing and take things one step at a time.  Using the Emotional Hot Button Removal Techniques I released the emotional energy that got in the way of me using my intuition.  I started to let my intuition guide me on where to focus my energy and how much energy to expend in any particular area.  I started to say No to activities where before I felt like I had to say Yes.

In conjunction with using my intuition, I set my intention for how I would like to” feel and experience life.”  My intention is to have fun, be vibrant and have a thrilling business.  I used this intention to help guide my direction and actions.  My intuition has made it clear that I am to write a book about my experience going through divorce and I am to share the Emotional Hot Button Removal techniques.  As a result of this knowing I started to write my book in January of 2010.

I also know that life for me is about adventure.  I went to Belize in December of 2009 and had the best vacation ever.  On the vacation I was being vibrant and had a ton of fun learning how to scuba dive and meeting the local people.  Because of this experience everyone asked when I was going back.  I just shrugged my shoulders, I had not thought about it.   Within three weeks all barriers that might prevent me from going to Belize to write my book disappeared.   I would now have to manufacturer a reason why I couldn’t go.  Which after being a coach for ten years I know this is a common occurrence for people, called sabotage.   So instead of manufacturing an excuse I used my wonderful mind  to figure out how I could have a virtual business and set this as another intention.   I figured out the technology required to continue coaching my clients and then I just let the rest unfold.

Over the next several months all the pieces for the adventure fell into place with ease.  Here is a video clip from the first leg of my journey.  Video Link: Divine Divorce Journey 1